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The Worst Bad Idea
[This isn't a class assignment. DPhillip started it...then Brad followed.. since I am seeing a trend here, I might as well see if others will follow. 
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So one of the "worst, bad idea" I ever did was getting married. No, it was more than that. It was not listening to that inner voice telling me that it was a mistake. I've drowned the voice so many times in my life and all it got me was trouble. That was one of the worse things I ever did...ignore what my gut told me. What that 'inner voice told me'.
Did I learn after that? No...I went from one mistake to another. All because I never paused to listen to myself..and when I did there was always doubt. This is something I've been wrestling with for some time. Yes, sometimes I do answer and I love it. Sometimes I still doubt and I don't...or procrastinate forever. Something I'd regret later on.
So, did I really learn from that? Perhaps...perhaps yes...perhaps no. I'll know in a few more years when I look back once more... wondering if I will sigh in relief or shake my head in dismay.
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[grinning]...i should thank HOW for starting this. :) Yes, I hate the doubt thing too...and I still have it from time to time. |
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Some of the topics have been a bit dull (orange juice, etc.), but this one stirred things up more :-) |
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I agree. In fact, arkansasmama was able to write a looooooooooooong post after a long while. :) |
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There are no gray areas, only areas you walk into and those you do not walk into. -L |
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-L I sort of agree with you, in the matter of fact of the individual.... but so many times in life, results are effected by what others do....and that is what I would call gray areas. |
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I think the areas in this post mentioned were perhaps meant to be life decisions or paths. What you're speaking of are accidents or involuntary actions done unto you. It wouldn't be a choice, thus I wouldn't equate it to a gray area. Gray is meant to be an indecisive metaphor as used by Brad and Rica. -L |
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"I think the areas in this post mentioned were perhaps meant to be life decisions or paths." On that, I would agree with your earlier comment... |
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You might have married the wrong one Rica, but there may be a right one out there waiting for you. Keep listening to the inner voice until it says "yes". |
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[laughs]... that one can wait. My goal is to put my son through college. After that, anything can happen. |
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Oh no! That is a long time! |
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hahahahahahahaha ...it's just a few years.. what's another decade? [laughs] |
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Half my life Rica. Half my life. -L |
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argh!! */facepalm....
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You know like you Rica except it would be but has not happened and i hope never me, myself would not have the power to forgive an forget being human, to do so would not be fair, of course it was not fair to ut GOD on a cross either. So I tell you, I need and edge outside myself to express an unfairness my cruel divorced wife may deserve but I forgive, and I'll you, it does not either poof instantly it's done. I believe things like that takes time.And it's a miracle thanks only to GOd not me that such a task could be doen in a person like me because I have nothing to baost about. Seriously! NADA! Have a great weekend! i will be prsying and i do appreciate what you wrote! Thank you! Really tough your situation and it's so easy to say. Right? Well that's what I think. |
I am tryimng real hard to at least of what you posted capture empathy.
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"So I tell you, I need and edge outside myself to express an unfairness my cruel divorced wife may [not] deserve but I forgive, and I'll you, it does not either poof instantly it's done." I cannot believe the errors I have done here! LOL! |
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"You know like you Rica except it would be but has not happened and i hope never me, myself would not have the power to forgive an forget being human, to do so would not be fair,[but] of course it was not fair to ut [remove "to ut"] GOD [died] on a cross either." I acnnot believe lol the errors I've made here! |
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"You know like you Rica except it would be [my divorce wife] which i am still single and has not happened and i hope never me, Myself would not have the power to forgive an forget being human, to do so would not be fair, of course it was not fair to ut GOD on a cross either." |
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I keep a quarter in my wallet to flip when I get that feeling, it has two heads on it. i say tails i do it, and heads I don't. It always keeps me out of trouble, lol |
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hmmmm good idea! |
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If I have doubt- I don't do it. |
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the little voice in the back of the head is normally right, lol, it's listening to it thats hard, lol. |
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LOL! |
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Have a feeling your at a point in your life where u pause now:) |
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[sighs]...TRUE..and it's one long pause. |
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Smart people pause....oh also might be because they have CRS (can't remember squat) in my case:) |
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LOL...I just learned another acronym.... CRS. oh the things I learn on blogster everyday! hugs! |
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LOL! Be careful whrn you use it...most people use CRS as can't remember sh!t |
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hahahahahahahaahah..... oh. |
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LOL! On my typing! |
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that's true Nota:) Hugs back u Rica:) |
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okie...LOL! Which? The CRS or my typing? |
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hahahaha BOTH! HUGS HUGS HUGS! |
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CRS Nota:) |
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LOL! |
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Rica....LOL! Hugs back to you! |
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Yes, not listening to that inner voice...same problem I have too! By the way, HOW started this subject, I was just a follower...LOL! |
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heheheheheh thanks for following!!! you guys might've just started a trend! |
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You might doubt that you learned from your past experience, but your gut did. I'm a firm believer in that "inner voice". And as far as marriage goes, someday it might just give you the thumbs up. In the mean time, you seem like you're getting along quite well and you're doing a wonderful job with your son! (I just read the "slut" post.) |
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[laughs]....oh! Yes, if you go a few posts back, you'll see how this "tea time talk" started. I didn't realize how much talking and listening... can help improve relationships between parent and child that is. While I was never as open with my parents [as my son is with me], I never resented them for it. I kinda just accepted that there are some things that your parents can't talk about.... |
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I know my answer sounded strange since your "gut" is part of you, but really, it's still collecting and sorting even if we're not concious of it happening...I think? ; ) And your talk with your son was perfect, imo. It might only be Part 1 of the story or it might be over and done with in his mind, time will tell, but either way, you didn't tell him what to do; you listened and trusted him to work his own way toward a resolution. Many valuable lessons struck me in your story. I should have written this on the appropriate blog, so thanks for giving me the opportunity to do it here. : ) |
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Thank you... :) |
Husbandofawife actually started this "random topic of the day" thing.
I hate that doubt thing. Life has a lot of gray, which makes it complicated, but that's the way it is. You have to choose something based on what you know at the time and move on with your decision and deal with the consequences, as it sounds like you have done a few times.