Your heading was sexual "preference". I agree that in many cases it IS a choice or preference, but scientific evidence suggests that it is often caused by a genetic malfunction or "difference". In this case of course, it's like any other "abnormality" and i'm sure that our parental reactions would be different. How do you tell the difference? Mmmm. No idea. 

Check the dictionary before you tear my use of the word abnormality apart.

well your answer is 90 percent of the votes so far...

dont have a kids yet!!But i have a brother whose gay!!at first it was really annoying to have a gay brother but then he showed us that eventhough his gay he can stand to what he thinks is right and best for himself and to the people around him..Thats all!!bye!!

Since I don't know whether you are gay or nongay (and don't care) just when did you 'choose' your 'preference'? Just curious as I guess I 'chose' mine when the doctor hit me on the backside.

With all a gay person has to face, put up with, being attacked by the church, by families, being bashed, killed, thrown out of a job, looked down upon, not get the rights nongays have,why would anyone 'choose' to be gay?

It's a very good question Martin, but the social research says that some do actually choose rather than possess whatever it is that makes a person gay. I'll try to find the references. Besides, as you saw i'm sure, it was "Mom's" heading, not mine. If the question was directed to me, you could check people's bio. I curl up a bit on a cold night but that's the closest i get.

When did i choose? It's not a choice. I believe that it just comes naturally, exactly like (i suppose) happens to gay people. Having spent 6 years in a boarding school, the opportunity was there i suppose, but for 99.9% of us (that's a guess), there was never any doubt.

Don't worry, I won't be tearing anything apart here. I just wanted to see what others thought or felt about it.

If sexual preference was the wrong wording. I do apologize for that.

Did I word that wrong greatmartin? If I did, I apologize.

@greg 'having spent 6 years in a boarding school, the opportunity was there i suppose, but for 99.9% of us (that's a guess), there was never any doubt.' Obviously it wasn't an English boarding school--if you are going by social research

By the way while you are checking those 'social researches' please check the dates they were written--and, of course, for everone you post showing that it is a choice or preference I will show you a report that says it is natural and/opr nature. :O)

Since I am one of the two 'out' people commenting I think my experience/research/reports would be the ones of authority.

Since I think it is natural and after many years prefer it to a nongay life I guess it's okay--no big deal--what is disturbing is those who wouldn't know what to do--what is there to know? It's your child!!!

Ya should have named them Adam and Steve....

I do support them. Especially Ceasar, who has severe hip dysplasia.  The other dog, Frankie. get a bit too gung-ho at times.

:P

Yeah, okay.  As long as you know I was actually referring to kids lol :)

LoL, gotcha!

My son is going to be 11 years old, but if my son told me that, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. If he is happy, then I am happy for him.

No reflection on your chilren but I have known men who at the ages of 54, 58 and 63 leaving a 'happy' marriage and  grown children and have 'come out'.

Everyone has their own believes, I have always believed in Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve, and so did my boys, so I had nothing to worry about.

Who's to say that she might be 'faking ' it as it is so much easier being nongay than gay--not that I am saying she is--also who is to say that she won't meet the love of her life--a woman--tomorrow?

Though it is in itself a very big controversy I, me, myself don't believe there is such a  thing as bisexuality--as has been said it is only the gay person who says they are bisexual.  :O)

Hopefuly, you daughter gay or nongay will find love and peace with her HS boyfriend.

I pretty much agree on the bisexual thing Martin, but in my experience people who self-label as bi tend to be straight.   Cultural difference perhaps.  That said I have never known someone to have meaningful relationships with both sexes, but plenty of couples in straight and gay long term relationships.

Depends how you define bisexual--a man going to bed with 10 men and 1 woman to me is gay just as a married man (and I have, literally, known hundreds) with children will tell you they are gay.

Personally I don't care but in the 'old days' there was a pretty true saying, "Today's trade is tomorrow's competition"  LOL

That is actually the way I carried it to her!!!  You are my daughter regardless.  Just make sure that what ever you decide, that it is real!!

I'm just one of those folks who hate labels....when ever kids come to me to talk about their sexuality I will not allow them to label themselves.  I will often remind them that no one who is hexterosexual needs to go to mom or dad and say...folks I am hextro!!!

labels are not important!!!