
Having Children is Selfish
I know not everyone agrees with my antinatalist views. Amala being one of them. We tend to disagree on everything. She seems to think that not having children is selfish. I think differently. I think having children is utterly selfish because anytime you ask someone why they wanted children their sentence starts with "I."
"I wanted someone to carry on my legacy,"
"I wanted to someone to carry on my family name,"
"I wanted something to love unconditionally,"
"I wanted something to love me unconditionally."
All of these point to selfish reasons for having children. It always focuses on their hopes and dreams, on their needs.
The explanation is pretty simple: there isn't a single selfless reason to have children. The one and only selfless parent is the one who adopts a child. There are so many in the foster care system that are unloved and unwanted. If you wanted to truly be selfless then adopt a child and take care of it. Don't go spitting out more.
I became an antinatalist for moral reasons. There is too much pain and suffering in the world to bring a child into it and have it endure said pain and suffering: from accidentally falling and hitting your head to losing a loved on. Life is pain. The only way to keep people from experiencing pain is to not create more people.
Do the world a favor and stop reproducing.
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Some people can't learn a concept called "mine your own business", they want everybody to live like they do...maybe it is to reassure themselves that THEY made the right choices. I don't know. |
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Why selfish? It was not done for a selfish reason at all. When you read the Bible you will see what it says about children. Bro. Doc |
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I understand we all have different points of views, but I want to add that I am glad my parents had me. I love them very much. |
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There are many unwanted pregnancies in which the mother has the child for the child's sake. Then they love their child once they build the bond. |
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All of one's actions including speech and the written word originate from within, therefore all actions are of the self or selfish. "Troll2016, you post on Blogster." --a selfish action on my part |
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I decided a long time ago not to have children as well. I don't think it's fair to the child to bring it into a world such as this one. |
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Let me say to all that decided to not have children. It is there choice to or not to have children. But no one is selfish if they do. Bro. Doc |
Even those who adopt sometimes do it for selfish reasons. Now I don't say in condemnation because i am the "product" of an adoption that had a selfish component to it. My mother felt the need for a child, was unsure about having a healthy baby naturally and so adopted.
Now, I am not saying my mother didn't love me, and certainly I had a better life than I would have in all likelihood if I hadn't been adopted, but there is no question that having or adopting because one "NEEDS" a child to feel like one's life is worthwhile is a somewhat selfish act.
But then I think most things people do have some semi-selfish motivation. However, at the same, I applaud your resolve and sticking to your moral position of not bring addition humans into the world. What you do or don't do in your case, does no harm to anybody, (not even another potentially unhappy child/adult in the future) so why anybody would question your right to your position I don't understand. You do you, as some say.